New Mum Corner

This was a year ago. I look at this photo and feel so much. He had spent so much of the last 2 weeks on my chest, like this, skin to skin. He was feeding and sleeping continuously. It wasn’t all smiles and cuddles, there was also some ugly crying and foot stomping.  When he was asleep I wanted to be with my girls and husband, it was a week before Christmas, so to a 2 and 3 year old it’s the most magical time in their lives.  I was exhausted, we all were, being our 3rd, we knew it came with the territory, yet nothing can prepare you for it.  The only thing that worked in the end was to totally surrender to the exhaustion and to simplify everything - bedtimes, playtimes, feeding times and night times were all were simplified in whatever way we could. We worried of course at the time, about habits being made that would be hard to break but it really didn’t matter at all, we were trying our best. My husband and I were both operating at 20% and our 2 older children were just coming to terms with having a new baby brother, waking at night and a mama not being so available.  Due to past experiences I had learnt the value and benefit of not pushing myself, our new baby and our family at these times. Expert Dr Harvey Karp, refers to the first 3 months of a baby’s life as the 4th trimester, when a newborn is adjusting to life outside the womb, it is also a time for the parents and all family members to adjust. These are the times we hold our baby close, feed and comfort them as much as necessary. We take this time to heal, rest and nurture ourselves, our souls and our loved ones who are also adjusting.  A year ago today, HOME was really the best place for us, I remember this fondly, we had everything we needed and I was everything he needed. . By Gemma Douglas  Founder of The Motherhood Project.

This was a year ago. I look at this photo and feel so much. He had spent so much of the last 2 weeks on my chest, like this, skin to skin. He was feeding and sleeping continuously. It wasn’t all smiles and cuddles, there was also some ugly crying and foot stomping.
When he was asleep I wanted to be with my girls and husband, it was a week before Christmas, so to a 2 and 3 year old it’s the most magical time in their lives.
I was exhausted, we all were, being our 3rd, we knew it came with the territory, yet nothing can prepare you for it.
The only thing that worked in the end was to totally surrender to the exhaustion and to simplify everything - bedtimes, playtimes, feeding times and night times were all were simplified in whatever way we could. We worried of course at the time, about habits being made that would be hard to break but it really didn’t matter at all, we were trying our best.
My husband and I were both operating at 20% and our 2 older children were just coming to terms with having a new baby brother, waking at night and a mama not being so available.
Due to past experiences I had learnt the value and benefit of not pushing myself, our new baby and our family at these times. Expert Dr Harvey Karp, refers to the first 3 months of a baby’s life as the 4th trimester, when a newborn is adjusting to life outside the womb, it is also a time for the parents and all family members to adjust. These are the times we hold our baby close, feed and comfort them as much as necessary. We take this time to heal, rest and nurture ourselves, our souls and our loved ones who are also adjusting.
A year ago today, HOME was really the best place for us, I remember this fondly, we had everything we needed and I was everything he needed. .
By Gemma Douglas

Founder of The Motherhood Project.

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It takes 6 months for new mums to adjust to motherhood, new study reveals.

In this article, Heather Marcoux discusses 3 seperate studies done with regards when new mothers tend to adjust and gain some confidence with regards to motherhood. Each of these studies concluded that it took at least 14 weeks and some up to 6 months for mums to feel boost of confidence.

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Celebrate that magic line that brought your baby earth side.


For all the amazing mamas who belly birth their babies!
Thank goodness for modern medicine! It’s important to continue the work of changing the stigma around caesareans. The most important thing is to know our options when giving birth so we feel empowered, supported and in control. Understand what the likely sequel of interventions will be. Whether we have our baby naturally, with pain medications or with an emergency or elective c section, our baby is a miracle, they are safe and so are we. 📷 @spiritysol

When you became a Mother, along with that squishy warm bundle, you also acquired a voice, not only for yourself but one for your child until they grow big enough for this world to sit down and listen. Never be afraid to stand up and be heard. You are your child's advocate.  By Lacey Owen

When you became a Mother, along with that squishy warm bundle, you also acquired a voice, not only for yourself but one for your child until they grow big enough for this world to sit down and listen. Never be afraid to stand up and be heard. You are your child's advocate.

By Lacey Owen

‘Birth Choices. Make it for yourself. Not to impress anyone. Not to belittle anyone. Not to prove a point to anyone. Do not fear people’s judgement because they’re the ones making the error, not you.  Induction: You’d like to get that baby out, hey? Or maybe you just medically NEED to. I admire your excitement.  Spontaneous Labour: You want to wait for your baby to come when your body decides it’s ready. Keep up the suspense! I admire your patience.  Elective Cesarean: You’re avoiding labour and you can be perfectly prepared by knowing your baby’s arrival date! I admire your preparation.  Emergency Cesarean: I’m sorry your labour was taken out of your hands, but I know you’ll do whatever it takes. I admire your grace.  Epidural: Take that pain away girlfriend, and have a rest before pushing. I admire your strategy.  Drug Free: Wow. You get to experience everything labour is about. I admire your determination.  Women who induce are not lazy, they have their reasons. Women who go overdue are not crazy, they have their reasons. Women who opt for a ceaser are not too posh to push, they have their reasons. Women who need an emergency cesarean have not failed at birth, they have their reasons. Women who ask for drugs are not weak, they have their reasons. Women who go completely natural aren’t stupid, they have their reasons.  I’ve heard so much judgement on other women’s birth choices lately. It is their baby and their body, yet this obvious point seems to be overlooked. Every choice has pros and cons, risks and benefits. It is not a one size fits all. So whatever helps you be calm and enjoy the experience, and still keeps baby safe, then go for it! 💪🏻 ANY woman who gets their baby from the inside to the outside is a fucking champion. 🏆’ . . Image and words by the beautiful  @jessie.juggles.two     https://www.instagram.com/jessie.juggles.two/?hl=en

‘Birth Choices.
Make it for yourself.
Not to impress anyone.
Not to belittle anyone.
Not to prove a point to anyone.
Do not fear people’s judgement because they’re the ones making the error, not you.

Induction: You’d like to get that baby out, hey? Or maybe you just medically NEED to. I admire your excitement.

Spontaneous Labour: You want to wait for your baby to come when your body decides it’s ready. Keep up the suspense! I admire your patience.

Elective Cesarean: You’re avoiding labour and you can be perfectly prepared by knowing your baby’s arrival date! I admire your preparation.

Emergency Cesarean: I’m sorry your labour was taken out of your hands, but I know you’ll do whatever it takes. I admire your grace.

Epidural: Take that pain away girlfriend, and have a rest before pushing. I admire your strategy.

Drug Free: Wow. You get to experience everything labour is about. I admire your determination.

Women who induce are not lazy, they have their reasons.
Women who go overdue are not crazy, they have their reasons.
Women who opt for a ceaser are not too posh to push, they have their reasons.
Women who need an emergency cesarean have not failed at birth, they have their reasons.
Women who ask for drugs are not weak, they have their reasons.
Women who go completely natural aren’t stupid, they have their reasons.

I’ve heard so much judgement on other women’s birth choices lately. It is their baby and their body, yet this obvious point seems to be overlooked. Every choice has pros and cons, risks and benefits. It is not a one size fits all. So whatever helps you be calm and enjoy the experience, and still keeps baby safe, then go for it! 💪🏻
ANY woman who gets their baby from the inside to the outside is a fucking champion. 🏆’
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Image and words by the beautiful @jessie.juggles.two 

https://www.instagram.com/jessie.juggles.two/?hl=en

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This is what it’s like to be a new mum

In this article, Kim Darnell is downright honest about it. It’s emotional AND amazing, but there is so much more to it than that.

If you want to feel a little less alone in all the new mum thoughts you are experiencing on this journey I would have a read of this emotional and relatable piece of journal writing.

“Dear new mama,  Some days, I wish I were you.  It may sound strange, but tonight sitting here, my little ones tucked in, the quiet of the house both a respite and a reminder that I won’t hear the middle of the night cries, makes me long to hear them once more. I remember those days so clearly. I was tired, beyond tired really; I was exhausted. But tonight I’d still go back.”  Image @NoMama’sPerfect/FB

“Dear new mama,

Some days, I wish I were you.
It may sound strange, but tonight sitting here, my little ones tucked in, the quiet of the house both a respite and a reminder that I won’t hear the middle of the night cries, makes me long to hear them once more.
I remember those days so clearly. I was tired, beyond tired really; I was exhausted. But tonight I’d still go back.”

Image @NoMama’sPerfect/FB